Hello, and welcome.
I am Mario, a little untypical, and deeply human.
Support for neurodivergent and LGBTQIA+ adults who are tired of trying to fit in, and ready to live in a way that fits them
You've spent years adapting and holding it all together. I know that feeling from the inside, because I'm neurodivergent and queer myself. I work with autistic, ADHD and AuDHD adults who want to stop surviving the week and start living it.
Does this sound familiar?
You're getting through the week, but you're not really living it. By the evening there's nothing left for yourself or the people you love. You know exactly what you need to do, and still you can't make yourself start.
Or maybe everything has changed. A new job, a new country, a relationship ending, a late discovery about how your mind works. You're not sure who you are in this new chapter, and you're scared of choosing the wrong next step.
On paper, things might look fine. Inside, it can feel like running on a treadmill. Fast, tiring, and somehow going nowhere. Some people tell me they feel like a fraud. Others say they've simply lost their spark.
What often sits underneath?
When I work with people, we often find a long history of adapting. Masking at work. Reading every room. Being the one who is a bit different, because of how your brain works, who you love, or where you come from.
That takes an enormous amount of energy. It also tends to leave behind a harsh inner voice that says you should be coping better by now.
You're not lazy and you're not broken. You've been working very hard at a way of living that was never designed for you.
What could change?
Coaching with me is about finding a way of living and working that fits how you actually function. For some people that means recovering from burnout and finding a pace they can keep. For others it means quietening the critic enough to make a decision about what comes next.
Often it means getting some of your spark back, and feeling more at home in yourself, wherever home happens to be.
How I work?
I won't cheer you on with slogans, and I won't hand you a template. We'll look beneath the surface at the patterns that keep you stuck, then turn what we find into small, realistic steps.
At the end of each session you'll have a short summary of what we explored and something concrete to try before we meet again. Depth, with direction.
Why I do this work?
I'm autistic, ADHD and dyslexic, and I'm gay. I grew up in Lithuania, spent twenty years in the UK, and now live in a small town in northern Spain. I've learnt new languages, new cultures and the unwritten rules of a lot of different rooms.
For a long time I was very good at adapting. I know how much energy that takes, and how easy it is to mistake exhaustion for a personal failing. I also know the relief of starting to understand yourself, and the slow unearthing of who you are when you stop trying so hard to be someone else.
My story won't be the same as yours. But you won't have to explain from scratch what masking costs, why some days a single phone call feels like a mountain, or why living abroad can feel freeing and lonely at the same time.
I started out teaching chemistry, then moved into research and completed a PhD. Later I trained in psychotherapy in the UK, and I'm a member of UKCP and BACP. Today I'm based in Spain, where I work as a coach and wellbeing specialist with a focus on neurodivergence. My training shapes how carefully I listen, and my own experience shapes what I understand.
Getting started
The first step is a free 20-minute call. We'll talk about what's going on for you and whether working together feels right. You don't need to prepare anything or have the right words.
Sessions are online and in English. If it helps you feel at ease, you're welcome to bring in the odd word or phrase in Spanish, Lithuanian or Russian. I work with people across the UK and Europe and beyond.
Support That Makes a Difference
At the heart of what I do is guiding you on a path of self-discovery and personal growth. Through our regular meetings, we'll team up to pinpoint the hurdles that have been keeping you from fully enjoying your life. Think of it as a deep, explorative conversation where we’ll get to the bottom of these challenges, unveiling fresh, hopeful perspectives along the way.
What I offer isn't a handbook with all the answers, but a safe and nurturing space to better understand yourself, opening up pathways to emotional freedom, greater clarity, and growth.
As we travel this path together, you will feel more equipped to navigate life with confidence, self-trust, and a renewed sense of possibility.
Looking forward to growing together.
“The secret of getting ahead is getting started”